The Category of Being in Control of People and Things

I have come to understand that the world we live in is based in cause-and-effect laws. We know that everything that happens is caused by something else that happens to it, and that this chain can be traced to anything that has occured. For this reason, many people point to a Deterministic view of existence; that everything that happens must happen, or happens for a reason. Some say that it is God that did this, others say science simply works this way, but whatever they say, they agree that things cause other things to happen. It's the basic rule of the physical world. However, I kind of feel like there is a slight exception.

The only time I feel that people can break out of this system in through their understanding of this cause and effect system and how it works. Basically, the reason we have been able to achieve all that we have through science and technology has been through our greater understanding of somethings causing other things. In nature, gravity causes a fruit to fall from a tree, the taste of the fruit causes an animal to consume it, the animal's body causes it to be processed and expelled, and the resulting waste causes the tree to grow. However, though nature functions in this way, people have learned to gain control.

With our rational thought, we are able to think about the future; we can predict the kinds of effects that causes have. In this way, though decisions are based now on feelings and desires, not all causes have the same effects. Every time there is a decision to be made by a person, they consider the outcomes possible, decide which one they like, and redirect the natural cause and effect flow to move in that direction. In this way people can be held morally responsible for things they cause, as opposed to arguing that everything has to happen as it does. Now some would argue this does not defeat cause-and-effect, but merely makes certain effects caused by different things, ie. the tree grows where it does because we moved it there, not because it fell there. But I would say that through our understanding of nature, we have learned to thrive, and to change the natural course of things for our benefit. We are not slaves of this cause and effect system, but rather we are the artists of it. We take what exists, and make it better.

This kind of control through knowledge can also be seen in people who are intuitive, and in those who interact with them. Studies have shown that a majority of what people gain from our direct communication with them comes from body language, and non-verbal cues, as opposed to things actually said. Some people, are more aware of this than others, and these people seem to get a grasp on the kinds of people they meet much more quickly. Paying attention to certain actions, or to certain choices of words and stories, can indicate more than just what the person says. It is because of this that I find myself generally well-liked; in most situations when I interact with someone, I can quickly determine the way in which they prefer, or expect, to be treated, and by adhering to this method of interaction, I can give them exactly what they want. I don't lie, or act fake, I just show them the side of me they are most interested in. Some call me manipulative, I consider myself observant and accomodating. When I say I'm not fake, I mean I would never act out of personal character to please someone, and will still, at all times, be myself.

The thing is, being intuitive, I know what people who are also intuitive are seeing. I understand the cues they pick up, and the things that communicate most loudly to them. Because I speak this same non-verbal language, I am able to communicate in it fluently. For this reason, I am not as transparent to intuitive people as others may be. Those unaware of how they act non-verbally inevitably show more of themselves to those who know how to read them. I, on the other hand, understand the effects my actions have on people, and because of this, have confused many people about my true nature. Last year I had a problem with lying; not really about big things, but little details I would make up. Some people who knew me exceptionally well would know, but others would see my honest nature and never assume I was untrue. Likewise, though I am a strong Christian in faith, some people really only see this side of me, and assume that I am going to end up being a man of the cloth. I allow them this belief because it's the part of me they are most interested in. But people cannot assume to understand me quickly, because often I will only show the part that people will be most comfortable with.

Some people think that chivalry and being a gentleman are outdated concepts, that have no place in an equal society. They claim that a man going out of his way to be kind to women is simply a sexist ideal that brings imaginary "honour" to the man. However, the definition of a gentleman, as I understand it, is a man who at all times wants to ensure that everyone around him is as comfortable as possible. The ideals come from a desire to think of others, care for others, and have others care for you. I believe in respect and love for others whenever possible, and will at all times, strive for harmony and comfort for all. Even in the face of zombie apocalypse, you will find me holding open the door for survivors, and laying down my coat over a puddle of blood for you to cross safely.